Vulnerable Moments That Make Sex More Fun
In this article from YourTango, two of their experts discusses how being vulnerable together—taking naked photos, reading erotica aloud, and more—can make sex more fun.
From Dr. Aline Zoldbrod:
1. Write some erotica fueled by your partner’s sexual fantasies and name the characters in the story your real names. Read the erotica to him at a time when you’re both in the mood to have sex. It will bring the two of you together for a few reasons: a) It’s brave and vulnerable to do something creative and share it. b) It shows your partner that you really know him and have been listening to his heart’s desires. c) It will be a turn-on because guys are usually the aggressors, and it will make him feel great to be sought after.
2. Think of a place outside the house that is somewhat public, where you would be willing to risk having sex, like in the car. Think up some excuse for going to such a nearby place and convince him to go with you. Wear a skirt with no underwear. Brush your teeth and wear a bit of perfume, nothing too obvious. Drive the car to the place you have chosen and pull over. Kiss him. Surprise him by offering to have sex in the car. This is vulnerable because for most people, having sex in the car is very scary—and it does carry a bit of risk, so be careful! It will bring you closer together because no matter how it turns out, it will create a fun, private memory for the two of you.
3. Make a list of your four most vivid and pleasurable sexual episodes together. Share this with him. This is vulnerable because you are sharing your inner sexual self with him. It also can be very sexy, because repeating these stories will create sexy mental images and bond you together.
From Dr. Shoshana Bennett:
1. Masturbate in front of each other, one at a time. Allowing your partner to see you pleasuring yourself will help him understand what makes you feel good. When you watch your partner masturbate, tune in and really pay attention to what turns him on. The next time you make love, you can each practice what you learned.
2. Tell your partner what you like about your own body when it comes to love-making (the longer your list, the better). For instance, “I love how my long legs can wrap around you when we’re making love.” Appreciating your own body is an essential ingredient of self-confidence in the bedroom as well as very sexy for your partner.
3. Share with your partner three things you’d love more of during sex. To add a bit of intrigue, do this activity at a quiet café, and maybe discreetly write them down instead of verbalizing. Honesty coming from love increases closeness and trust.
4. Read erotic stories together out loud. Pick stories that are respectful but a bit out of your comfort zone. This gives you and your lover permission to use words and describe sexual behavior that you would ordinarily blush at. It can expand your horizons and keep you growing sexually.
5. Take naked pictures of each other, separately and together. Just for your private use, ask your partner to pose in sexy positions and then do the same for your partner. This activity can help strengthen your confidence and release the unnecessary embarrassment that impedes the unabashed sex you ultimately desire. The better you feel about yourself in all ways—including your body—the more you’ll be willing to trust and share yourself intimately with your partner.
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